
Tremendous! - I discovered the boundaries method when I took a class on Townsend and Cloud s Healthy Changes. It has absolutely changed my life. Although I am pretty assertive and do express my boundaries to others, this book has helped me with another problem: not second guessing myself. Often I would make a decision and find the people around me getting upset over what I had chosen. The boundaries book helped me understand that I own my own life and the opinions of others are not my responsibility. Nine times out of ten, the opinions I was getting from others turned out to be nothing more than manipulation in disguise, and an attempt to get me to cave in. I would not cave in, but I would feel very guilty about it for months to follow. No more.I highly recommend this book to Christians and non-Christians, as the book emphasizes the exemplary relationship between God and humanity. It proves, once and for all, that true Christianity is not a religion. It s the ultimate relationship.
How to say No and still be a good Christian? - Biblical quotes and elementary school writing did not meet my adult expectations for discussing boundaries.
Turning my life around - As a Christian, I continually struggled with feeling depressed from being a doormat, and being nice because it was part of the abundant Christian life. Everyone spoke about Christianity as being a joyful, full life that I would love and never want to return to the secular world. Then why did I feel so miserable? Why did the secular world seem so appealing, where I could be as nasty and selfish as I wanted to? The answer was in Boundaries. As I read the book, I could identify with something in every chapter. I m the type of person who will let everyone else step all over me to keep themselves happy. As long as I didn t raise a ruckus, and the peace was kept, everything was okay, right? WRONG! Inside I was always seething with anger, and I was livid with the fact that I had to continually step out of the way for everyone else while they ran right over me. Through reading this book, I realized that it s OK to set boundaries in all interactions, in fact, I now believe that it would be wrong NOT to set boundaries in things. Slowly but surely, with the help from this book s message, I ve been setting boundaries for a happier life that s filled with more peace, joy, and abundance than ever.
Speaking as a family counselor, it s enjoyable. - Research is 75% of what we do, and this book is worth the read
Very beneficial to those who always seem to be way too busy! - I am so glad that I read this book. I have begun to see that I need to set boundaries in my life and that it is OK to do that. So many people today are burnt out and at the end of their rope because they take on too much responsibilty. This book will seriously help you to see where you need to change and will give you good instruction in how to change. You CAN set good, healthy boundaries in your life! This is a book that you really need to read!